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I estimate that there are over 900,000 incels in North America and perhaps 9,000,000 in the Middle East.

Group Therapy

Women form a vocal part of the incel community, whether as incels themselves or allies creating a community of support within a culture that often teaches its members that support is a hopeless pipe dream.
The nihilism of inceldom feeds its extremist toxicity and misogyny.
Members being kind and supportive of each other’s mental health, is a start.

Here is some constructive advice for Incels:
• Stop whining.
• The Incel (Involuntary Celibacy) Problem is not a Problem, it is a condition.
• Blaming and externalizing ‘the problem’ changes nothing.
• Dwelling—even obsessing—on this condition is not constructive; it is destructive.
• Get off Reddit, 4Chan, etc. as if these help (they most certainly do NOT).
• Turn off FAUX News. You are being a sucker for watching.
• Avoid any of your peers that consider themselves “players” and women as “conquests.” This is mental poison. It fuels bitterness and despair.
• Figure out what kind of love you want in your life (beyond recreational sex), the kind of person that wants the same things, and develop a rational plan for meeting that person.
• Work on yourself – you’re half of any sexual encounter or relationship. To be desired, be desirable.
• Be yourself. Don’t try to be Richard Cory (or somebody else).
• And above all, don’t kill anyone. Eternal celibacy is infinitely preferable to prison sex.

Stop looking ONLY at yourself. Find a distraction! Learn to enjoy frequent outings by yourself!

Get OUT of the "feedback loop of despair."

Go out to places (museums, concerts, flea markets, farmer's markets) WITHOUT THE EXPECTATION of interacting with "the right person."

You have to learn to walk before you can learn to run.
AND
You have to relearn to walk before you can relearn to run.

Individuals are INDIVIDUALS. Stop projecting archetypes (e.g. Chad, Stacy) especially perfection.

Nobody is perfect.